Comments on: The death of innocence

By: PS

PS — Thu, 03 Jul 2008 10:17:16 +0000

Hi – I write to request some help. My niece is now 3 and we are looking for a school in Chennai for her. I happened across this post of yours while looking for something else on the net and it shocked me. I understand your reasons for not revealing the name of the school here, but if it is possible to get in touch with you personally for this information, I would be very grateful indeed.

Thank you very much,

PS.

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By: Vanavil

Vanavil — Mon, 31 Mar 2008 18:21:25 +0000

Padmaja-

So shocking!!Feel extremely sorry for the lil girl.I am just extremely worried reading this.
Could you just highlight how the mom actually found out that the girl was molested?like behavioural/physical changes.I am also a mom and whilst I know how to track things like these by reading material about child abuse,I would like to know as a mom how she actually had her doubts or what the child actually told her.
I dont know how this can be written subtely,but Padma can you do that?Both boys and girls can be targets of child abuse and as parents it is very important for us to know how this can be tracked.
I had enrolled my girl for a Karate-self defence class here in the US and in the first few classes she was taught about ‘Stranger Danger’”(never ever to talk to strangers or get anything from them or go near their car or acknowlege even a ‘hi’ when grownups are not around) and as to how to react (to scream and run to a place where more people were there) when she encounters strangers and also about Correct/Incorrect Touch from Unknown & Known People.
After the first session,I could not let her continue on with the second one.I am definitely going to let her pursue once the next session resumes.
I think we all need to educate and train them with regard to this.

By: Ambrosexi

Ambrosexi — Wed, 26 Mar 2008 14:26:05 +0000

thats for sure, man

By: Harish Ramaswamy

Harish Ramaswamy — Wed, 19 Mar 2008 16:32:46 +0000

Oh my god!
Im shocked! I cant believe all this is happening and its all hushed.

I think you should talk to these “celebrity” parents and explain again. If they say no, tell them that this molestor could do this to their ward too. It is of least importance whether the management is giving them that importance, its their child who is more important and they should understand that. try explaining. these celebrity parents could probably do something.

and i cant believe the parents are being so quiet about this. however less aggressive they are. Their daughter, JUST THREE AND A HALF YEARS OLD, has been physically abused and this is going to leave a mark on her forever. I just wish they would understand. And to top it all, they re sending her back to school. the place she dreads.

I think its absolutely legal for them to go SUE the management. if anything happens to jeopardise their security, they can complain that also.

I just wish the parents understood how serious this was. Try making them read this.

Its sad, but that’s the way things are. one of the celebrity parent apparently called the school, but was assured that it was just a rumor… Now that I’ve done my bit, I’m just getting out of the scene…

By: Pradeep

Pradeep — Fri, 14 Mar 2008 18:57:04 +0000

My God!! Shocking!
Why don’t you tip off CNN-IBN or NDTV? They are capable of doing a story without revealing the child’s name..

By: 10yearslate

10yearslate — Thu, 13 Mar 2008 22:34:08 +0000

This is a sad topic. Has been, is and will be prevalent as long as adults who haven’t been pyschometrically analysed are in charge of Children.

Currently is playing out in Melbourne, a city in a ‘developed’ country with mandatory background checks for adults working with children.

http://www.theage.com.au/articles/2008/03/13/1205126111228.html

Read the article… Really sad…

By: Lakshmi

Lakshmi — Thu, 13 Mar 2008 04:04:09 +0000

Hi Paddu,
you go girl! You are doing the right thing. Police should get involved. Maybe the doctor can help give a certificate. It is tough for any parent to publicize this, even though my brain is saying that it should be done.
We’ve been talking to our kids about this -tough, but figure it is better they know in order to be recognize it. Our cub scout troop has a guide which makes it easier to talk about this. Your toddler may be too young, but you can tell him some basics or ask once in a while specific questions. obviously this goes for all parents.
here are a couple of links from scouts that I googled. I’ve used the second booklet -it talks about other forms of abuse also, which I found useful also.

http://old.scouting.org/pubs/ypt/pdf/46-221.pdf
http://old.scouting.org/pubs/ypt/pdf/46-015.pdf

Good Luck. If I were in your place, I wouldn’t take on the war alone.. or even lead one. Let police handle or the press (as Maami pointed out).

Thanx! Its a little delicate right now for me because the child’s mom is worried about her daughter’s future… I for my part have spread the word around and is frantically trying to secure a place for my son in another school. Went to a couple of schools yesterday. Going to another one now. Admissions are closed everywhere in January… I’m totally mixed up:(

By: maami

maami — Wed, 12 Mar 2008 07:17:46 +0000

Horrible.
In a city like Madras where there’s high concern for conformity and obediance to authority, it is despicable that accountability is not given that much importance.
The parents will kow tow, the school authorities will act high-handed and indifferent.If it’s a local school you can tip off the press;if it’s an international school you can bring it to the notice of the school’s headquarters and head office via e mail.Do what it takes;but not remain mute. If we don’t voice our protest, the offenders will be emboldened to commit further acts of paedophilia.

Ya, we’ve dashed off an email to the school’s headquarters. Lets see what happens.

By: Anoop

Anoop — Wed, 12 Mar 2008 01:18:39 +0000

that’s so shocking – and whats even more ridiculous is to hear the school’s stand on this. did the girl identify the guy? isn’t it possible to get snaps of guys working at the school via some other mode etc? that guy should be beat to death if possible and he should never ever even think of doing this to another child. Morons!! if only there was a proper governing body to which a complaint can be put forward – sigh!!

The girl says she can identify the guy. But the doc who examined her said, she’ll be further traumatised if she comes face-to-face with him again. So right now our focus is to help the child to get back to normalcy…
And the school now says they’re sure its not any of their employees and are investigating it further.